relaxed: landing up



s soon as the blooms on my camellia burst open, they fall. I guess it is the chill in the air or the gentle late autumn winds that carry them, but it’s a curious thing how all the blossoms land up.  By the end of October when Big Red Kitchen, our home of 10 years finally sold, we were left exhausted but could not put a finger on why we were so tired. Shouldn’t we feel alive and invigorated? I mean, gosh we just carried out a huge plan to live our dream life and were indeed living it. Himself finally confided in his boss on how worn out he was when his boss stated the obvious, “well you have been through a major life change.”

Ah ha! We were missing out on one pillar of our life vision to live an Active, Generous, Simple, and Relaxed lifestyle. We weren’t relaxed. We were relaxing but weren’t relaxed. Manderley was looking a bit cluttered with the last remnants of the move. This caused stress. CrossFit was very difficult to get back into after missing two months. It caused fatigue instead of creating energy which comes with working out. We needed to reevaluate and adjust. We had to relax our minds, not just our bodies. We needed to give ourselves grace.

To handle the clutter that comes with a move, we changed our thought narrative. The looming long lists of tasks were now looked upon as small works in progress. So we started shouting “progress!” every time we moved something, hung something, or threw something away. We gave ourselves grace by celebrating the bits here and there of progress instead of looking at unfinished tasks as failures. Every little completed task is progress. It’s relaxing now, and sometimes funny, like when I put my coffee mug in the dishwasher, “progress!”

As for CrossFit, we quit. Golly! On my five year anniversary of CrossFit I quit. It was time to move on and take with me all the parts about it I loved- powerlifting and kettlebells, basically all things strength. There is something relaxing about never having to do Fran, Filthy Fifty, and Fight Gone Bad ever again. We joined the Wellness Center here at Colonial Williamsburg and I am coaching myself.  I firmly believe that one must be able to push and pull their own body weight. That is longevity in a nut shell. Longevity, it’s a good goal.  In the spring I will be back on my paddleboard again on the Mighty James River to train for some more races. So exciting!

It’s been a challenging year, one of great risks and unknowns, but our simpler lifestyle made every hard day worth it.  So like my little camellia blossoms…

We landed up.   


  1. Coconut
    Posted December 5, 2014 at 8:25 PM | Permalink

    A poetic, wonderful way to look at it all, live it all.

    Congratulations. 😀

    • Robin Sue
      Posted December 8, 2014 at 7:37 AM | Permalink

      Thank you Coconut!

  2. Ellen W
    Posted December 5, 2014 at 8:36 PM | Permalink

    What a great thought! Rewarding progress and not just perfection. I’m going to start doing that too! Have a lovely Christmas in your new home.

  3. Posted December 6, 2014 at 1:11 PM | Permalink

    Thanks for your sweet comments about my husband Tony – his Memorial was last night and thankfully there were more laughs than tears. Hopefully I will land up too! 😀 Hugs!

    • Robin Sue
      Posted December 8, 2014 at 7:36 AM | Permalink

      Biz you will land up, I have faith in you.

  4. Teri
    Posted December 6, 2014 at 2:17 PM | Permalink

    I loved this post. We aren’t moving (as far as I know) in the upcoming year, but my goal is to significantly downsize in 2015 so after our youngest graduates from high school we will be ready to go where ever the Lord leads.

    • Robin Sue
      Posted December 8, 2014 at 7:38 AM | Permalink

      It is a good feeling to be free of so much stuff!

  5. Posted December 6, 2014 at 4:58 PM | Permalink

    Happy Holidays Robin Sue. So glad you are settling in.

  6. Colleen
    Posted December 6, 2014 at 5:48 PM | Permalink

    Balance. Still working at achieving it. Glad to hear you’ve had success! “Progress!” Colleen

  7. Anita
    Posted January 2, 2015 at 7:38 PM | Permalink

    You landed up because you chose to. It’s not magic, it’s a choice and I love the approach to your dilemma. I may start shouting out “progress”, too. It’s life- affirming!

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